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Editor of The Motherload. Top Writer in Parenting. Her BSc. and RRT designations led to a fulfilling NICU career prior to becoming a mother.

Motherhood

Even though his contributions make me a better mom.

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My husband does the laundry. No one asks him to, and often no one thanks him for doing it. But somehow, every week, our clothes, our kids' clothes, the towels, the sheets; they all get cleaned. And with each load, the jealousy grows.

Throwing the piles into the washing machine is definitely the easy part. From there, he sorts them into mounds of hang dry vs. dryer items, hangs the clothes, folds the towels and clothes, and puts the fresh sheets on the beds.

A couple of times per week, I walk into our bedroom to find a tidy little…


It was part of the job description, but that didn’t lessen the heartbreak.

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Trigger warning: this story is about newborn loss. It discusses personal experience from the healthcare perspective but involves details of end-of-life care.

I am a proud Respiratory Therapist (RT).

I worked in the largest Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) in our province (I’m Canadian). The sickest newborn babies from up to 1000 kilometers (700 miles) away were flown to our center for our expert care. And it is the sickest of the sick and the smallest of the small who require a Respiratory Therapist.

On a daily basis, my job was to breathe life into these tiny, helpless beings. Though…


Volume 2 — June 2021

Our second month was a shocking success!

As our story archives continue to grow, so does our readership! The Motherload publication is adding new followers daily and has now logged over 20,000 reading minutes in the last 30 days.

May Highlights

Our loyal and engaged readers logged some serious time on The Motherload this past month. Our top three stories for reader engagement were:

I Lost my Child at the River by Donna Sheehy

Proxy Mommy by Laura Culberg- Welcoming Opposites

4 Reasons You Should Absolutely NOT Homeschool by Sara Barnes

I’d like to give additional recognition…


PREGNANCY

Another pregnancy, another farewell.

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Dear,
The version of me I love the most,

You know who you are. The fun-loving, easy-going, and charismatic person you are when surging hormones and exhaustion haven’t beaten you down. The person you are outside of pregnancy and post-partum. The woman you identify as outside of being a mother.

As with our two previous pregnancies, I know you will slowly drift away from me. Those two pink lines your final boarding call before departure. I wanted to take a moment to make a pledge to you before you go. You are what makes me whole, you are who my…


MOTHERHOOD

Admittedly, I’ve become a bare minimum mom.

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Raising one (or more) children while pregnant with another is a Herculean feat.

In the past, my two children under three would keep me on my toes, swearing under my breath, and left me exhausted by 7 pm. Now, however, we are expecting a third. During this first trimester, I’ve realized that parenting my living, breathing children has never been more difficult.

Every day I am struggling like never before and it is making me question my ability to raise a third child.

First trimester fatigue is debilitating. I was well aware that it was coming, but that doesn’t make…


PARENTING

In my case, the debate has been settled.

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My husband and I have always dreamed of a bigger family, but lately, we find ourselves questioning whether we should make that our reality.

We have two daughters, two happy, healthy, and perfect little girls. They have fulfilled us in a way that only a parent knows possible. We are overjoyed with the family we have, but our dream was three children.

When it comes to having another child, our heads say one thing but our hearts say another.

According to our heads, we are done having children.

Things have settled in our life as a family of four. The…


Today, ‘The Motherload’ hit 100 followers and beyond.

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This community is nothing short of amazing!

Twenty-seven days ago on a whim, I created our publication. The Motherload came to fruition with the goal of uniting moms around the world through shared experiences, valuable information, and inclusivity.

We have quickly grown into a large group of first-class mothers. Mothers who are strong. Mothers who are intelligent. Mothers who are incredibly supportive.

Our mission is to provide our followers with ‘the motherload of motherhood information’ and we are well on our way to doing that. We have published dozens of stories, the majority of which have been chosen for distribution…


Volume 1 — May 2021

First of all, let me just say, wow! In the three weeks since this publication was founded, I am astonished by how far it has come. I am so proud to have my name share space among the list of writers in this group. Women who are highly educated, creative, genuine, sensitive, compassionate, and driven. Women who are mothers.

Thank you all for joining me on this journey to make motherhood information accessible and free from judgment.

April Highlights

Our publication was founded on April 9th. Within one week we had 28 followers, 20 writers, and 12 published stories. Of the 12…


PREGNANCY

What to do when the star of the show gets silenced.

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Long before I became pregnant, I thought I was strong enough to handle childbirth without an epidural.

Thankfully, that turned out to be true. Through no choice of my own, I delivered my first child vaginally without the assistance of an epidural. And to this day, I cringe when I think about our labor experience.

Not because of the pain, but because my wishes were blatantly ignored.

Due to complications, our obstetrician decided that when we got to 37 weeks, our baby would thrive better out than in. And an induction was scheduled.

As this was my first, I had…


MOTHERHOOD

Asking for help means you have succeeded as a mother.

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How many times have you compared yourself to another mom, your child to another child?

I know that I have a habit of doing this. It is mostly a quick, innocent thought, but nonetheless, it crosses my mind. If I am thinking it, I know other moms are too. None of us would ever dare say that motherhood is a competition. …

Erin Hendriksen

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